Appearance - How significant it is?

“I think I don’t look so good. I have such bad acne. I was embarrassed about the way I looked….. I looked so unpleasant.”

They say the beauty is only skin deep.

Well, only some of us are entirely satisfied with our appearance. Few of us nearly collapse into depression when we see our reflections.  A teen-ager’s appearance can change so rapidly that, according to one psychologist, youths often “feel like strangers in their own bodies.” Many thus frustrate about their face, hair, and figure and body type.

A healthy concern about your look thus makes good sense. On the other hand, when you become over self-conscious that you withdraw from others or feel bad about yourself, then such concern is no longer healthy.

Who says your unattractive?

“Adolescence is a period of transition in which a major reorganization of the body takes place… To deal with the awkwardness of a new and changing body, most adolescents rely upon the security of their peer group”, says professor of psychiatry Richard M. Sarles. But under the scrutiny of your peers, how small, giant, slim or chubby you are can happen to a great cause of anxiety. And when others get attention than you or when you are rebuke about your looks, you can easily begin to undergo stress or depression. For that reason, melancholy over personal appearance is not always due to actual physical defects.

Look you best

As a growing youth, our appearance is still changing. Time solves problems such as pimples, fluctuations in weight.

Many youths have to live with the truth that their looks are, well, simple. “For most people, the lack of good looks is one of the most painful facts in life, one they learn early and rarely elude for the remainder of their lives”, said by writer John Killinger.

Simple hygiene can do a lot to improve your good looks. Your hair may not have the gleam of that of a movie actress, but it can be clean; so can your appearance. With your parent’s approval, you may also try to experiment with clothing and hairstyles that bring out your physical assets and down play your flaws. You can present a nice appearance with effort and imagination - even if you are not naturally endowed with good looks.  

Balance

Be careful not to make your look the big thing in your life.  A tip to think about: are not of you friends are average-looking? And would either of your parents be material for the cover of a fashion magazine? Most likely not. Indeed knowing their fine qualities, you seldom even consider about their appearances. You too have assets as a person that far is more important than any physical flaws - real or imagined.